l know this is not the appropriate category in which to make this post, but I've always felt that a broad perspective helps me make better decisions. So, I’m writing because l need advice about my son, a 14-year-old. He came home from school yesterday with a slight limp, so l asked him what happened, thinking that he suffered an injury in gym or at practice. To the contrary, he told me (albeit reluctantly) that he had been hit in the balls. l asked what happened, he tried to dodge the question, l asked again, and finally he admitted that he had intentionally “grabbed” a girl is backside, and that she had kneed him.

On one hand, l felt bad for him because he was in pain from the knee in the balls, but, on the other hand, l was furious with him because l didn’t raise him to treat women that way. Quite simply, l was torn between A) sympathy and B) feeling as if he deserved it.

l do not know.

If you were in my position, how would you have reacted, and what would you have said to him?

l wouldnt worry about it sounds like things worked themselves out.

l would be a bit more worried about how his balls are at the moment walking with a limp does not sound real good.then deal with his attitude towards the ladies later.but these things happen when boys are growing up do not no if her reaction was the right thing to do she should have told a teacher and not turn it into something so horrible he might not do it again thou

Ummm. why is this in the surfing section. As a father of a 16 year old girl, he got what was coming to him.

Well Im still in college so l dont have kids of my own, but people do stupid things from time to time. Coming from a younger perspective, l would say have a talk with him about it but dont over do it. Just because he did does not mean he has some warped view of women. There r a lot of different influences out there these days so sometimes its just hard to be sure. If it continues to happen then something may be wrong, but otherwise its probably just adolescence. He sounds like he learned his lesson anyways. And this really isnt the place to ask this question.

Bring him to a doctor to get it checked out if it is really bad, and after he heals or feels better let him know that he should not be grabbing girls asses.

from a 14 year old girl is perspective (me), if a guy came up to me, & grabbed my backside, & l felt as if l had been touched inappropriately, l would undoubtedly knee him in the balls. Although the girl should have probably handled the situation maturely, put yourself in the girl is perspective-- as a 14 year old girl, what would u have done if a boy came up to u in school & touched u inappropriately?
Both of them seemed to have handled the situation very immaturely- as the boy, l would have tried to express my attraction to the girl by talking to her, or verbally flirting with her, not grabbing her, & as the girl, l would have, honestly, after being humiliated like that, would have probably sworn at him, or been extremely upset, & just shaken my head, walked off, & would probably stay away from him in school from that point on.
However, hopefully from this point on, he will have learned his lesson, & the girl will realize that kicking a guy where it hurts is NOT the way to handle a situation.

l raised two, one of each. Of course u did not raise him to be disrespectful of women. But then again, u probably did not raise him to any of the bad, nasty, sneaky sh#t that he does & does not get caught. He is a teenage boy, not a saint or a robot. Now, for all of the good lessons that u have tried to give him over the years about being respectful to women, he did not get the hint. However, some young lady who knows quite well how to deal with loutish teenage boys, taught him a lesson he will remember forever. He will survive both the pain & embarrassment (a warm bath will help). Draw the warm bath for him, but laugh just a little when he saws ''ouch' getting in. The lesson will sink in better.