He does not actually go that often, but he is obsessed.l do not surf and would have problems due to a knee injury, so l can not really join in.I am worried that the only holiday that we will ever have that does not involve surfing will be our honeymoon if we get married!

l love the sea, but it is no fun swimming where there are surfers and l would not feel safe around surfers with my little girl.I am also not a big fan of sitting around on the beach all day, but what else am l supposed to do while he is surfing?
I am beginning to think we should take seperate holidays.He gets completely single minded when he is got surfing on his mind.l might as well not exist.
l do not much wanna surf and, besides which, we have a toddler who obviously can not be left to fend for herself or come surfing with us!!!
l have my own life - thank you very much - it just does not involve surfing!!!!l would rather go exploring ancient monuments in Greece (for example) but he does not see the point of that because where would he surf?

Work out a schedule where you pursue your own interests while he surfs. He is not a baby, you're not going to miss some great milestone if you leave him alone for a few hours. Let him have his surfing and you find your own hobby. Otherwise, your relationship will reach an impasse over the subject.

So is he obsessed or does he not actually go that often? Get your own hobbie then, im sure he doesnt tell you to sit on the beach and watch him? its just a hobbie, it will probably wear off in a while.

We all need our own thing.
The more he knows it bothers you, the more he may do this, to get away, to get away from fights, to assert his own identity.
Assert your own identity!!!
Find the things that you will take your sweet time with.
And if you can trust a man with your little girl, or hell, find a friend to watch her!!!
GET your own life.
See how HE feels.

You just have to except it & find something else to do that day.Get another hobby, or activity u like. My ex was a surfer & it is a lifesyle if u do not enjoy it l would rethink marrying him. It is a trainwreck waiting to happen. l rode horses while he was surfing & we never had problems. l trusted him totally though. You have to be carefull w/some of them, they like to elaborate on that, with the girls. Depending on how old he is ..it is very physical & he will stop when he gets a little older. It is ur decision to live with it or not. Do not expect to change him u won't.

shoot him! problem solved!

His surfing is something u will have to come to accept because it is not likely that he will stop just to please you. Surfing is more than an activity it is a lifestyle. l also tend to make my vacation plans (and even business travel plans) around locations that l can surf.

Since it sounds like u r not into kicking back at the beach & getting some sun while he is surfing maybe the best idea would be for u alternate making vacation plans. Take him with u to Greece & then he can take u to Costa Rica or wherever. As for a honeymoon.some of the best honeymoon destinations offer great surf (Hawaii, Tahiti, etc.)

You need to decide whether u have room in ur relationship for his other interest. l Surf & l taught my step sons to surf, although my wife does not & has no interest in learning. Over the last 3 years that we've been married we've had about as many vacations together, that did not involve surfing, as myself & my step sons had surfing trips that did not include my wife. If u want to be with ur partner ur going to have to let them do what makes them happy. That in turn should make u happy.

just split up vacation itinerary like go to costa rica and have a few days where he surfs and u go places with ur daughter and a few days when he goes with u to do onshore activities like climbing their volcanoe

omg! let him go surf on his own or with some buddies if it bothers you so much. you dont have to be there just sitting around. surfing is more then just a hobby. its a lifestyle. do not expect him to give up his lifestyle. believe me, l surf and its not just a hobby.

work on a schedule that will best work for you both.

To me there is just one simple way to remedy that, if you can not beat them, join them, encourage him and let him have his fun. While he is surfing, get a camera with wide angle lens and start shooting pictures of him, show him how good or bad he is.

Have you ever heard of the term ''Bros before Hoes'' well with surfing its kind of like that except its ''Waves before Babes''. The waves were there first , they will always be there so you need to respect that and find your own hobby.

l know what it is like from his side. l am a windsurfer myself, & love it! Cant' get enough of it. My GF is the same as you, does not surf but she does not mind lying on the beach.

But l will always make sure l make time for her. If we're on holiday, l might do a couple of hours of surfing a day, but then we will just chill out together, go on a day trip or for a walk.

l think u need to tell ur BF whats on ur mind! Otherwise he wo not understand when u get angery with him. He does have to start making time for u though. Relationships involve sacrifices but also compromise!

I'd like to say your jealous, but it does not sound like it, more like your lonely, and that is sad; he might also feel bad doing something he wants because he is causing you to be so.
Why not holiday with some friends, then you can hang out with the girls during the day, and enjoy the nights with your man.

People do tend to get obsessed with it. I've lost jobs because there were waves, & l was not going to go to work while it was ''goin' off''.

Why do not u try alternating holidays, like one beach holiday, then the next, a more cultural kind of holiday. There r places, where there r breaks, AND interesting local culture. (Although u might not get this guy out of the water long enough to enjoy them).

Have u ever tried body boarding? It is quite fun, & would give u a chance to paddle out with ur man. You could include ur little girl as well. Kids LOVE it.

You could always break his knee, that'd put an end to it.

Also- Unless u plan on visiting the Alps, or the middle of a desert, he is definitely going to find a way to surf on ur honeymoon.